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      <image:caption>Would you like to learn to cultivate more peace, confidence, and trust in yourself and life? The two-day “Reclaim Your Power” immersion is designed to take you out of the theatre of your mind and invite you to look at the mechanics of how your experience is created. Zooming out on life shifts the power back from your experience, from your circumstances, to a place deep within yourself. A place that is constant, reliable, and offers an infinite source of wisdom and guidance.</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.therestorativecoach.com/blog/a-muddy-memory-brings-a-fresh-perspective</loc>
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    <lastmod>2023-09-16</lastmod>
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    <lastmod>2023-09-12</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Blog - There is More to Life Than Meets the Eye</image:title>
      <image:caption>The Physical Layer The physical layer is our external reality, it’s everything we see with our eyes. This is where we tend to spend much of our time and energy, paying attention to the physical world, managing it, navigating it, and being consumed by it. The Psychological Layer This layer is internal to us - it's our thoughts and feelings. This layer is exceptionally distracting, consuming our attention, and plays a pivotal role in creating our reality. We think we are experiencing the physical world through our senses, in reality, we are experiencing our psychological interpretation of the physical world and we react and act upon that interpretation. This is the layer that keeps us asleep. We are so entranced by it, that we don't even perceive it. It's this layer that is our biggest obstacle to waking up.  Spiritual Layer The last layer is the spiritual layer. This is the source of life and is the energy that fuels everything. It’s the inner, quiet space that precedes thought. When you connect to this layer through a quiet, open mind, you will tune into the qualities of this energy - peace, perspective, love, understanding, and wisdom to name a few. When those qualities flow through you, life gets easier and more fulfilling and you find a deeper meaning.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.therestorativecoach.com/blog/overriding-your-default-settings</loc>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>Blog - A Powerful Realization - I Don’t Have to Accept My Default Settings - I have been listening to a lot of Tara Brach recently and this talk is so powerful and so true and is particularly helpful when observing your patterns. It’s about being a kind, non-judgmental witness of your experience.</image:title>
      <image:caption>I hope you enjoy it. The Superpower of Mindful Witnessing</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2023-04-04</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Me age 18 with my grandmother, Ida.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2023-03-03</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Blog - What if You Are Already Everything You Want to Become</image:title>
      <image:caption>When I look back on the last two weeks, there have been a lot of signs and clues that I am already what I am trying to become. Last Thursday, I was on a call with a client and as we both logged into Zoom, she asked me if I had lightened my hair. I smiled and said no, it's just all the grey coming through. During the pandemic, I didn't go to the hairdressers for several months. I got to this halfway point where my roots were as long as my dyed hair. When the hairdressers reopened, I had a decision to make. Do I keep going or dye it again? I decided to let my natural hair color return, I grew out the dye! It was around the same time my hair was half grown out, that I was halfway through my coach certification program. I remember at some point over the last 3 years making a connection between my mastery as a coach and my hair turning fully grey. It was an inspiring image to me.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>Blog - What if You Are Already Everything You Want to Become - An Invitation - Three Free Sessions</image:title>
      <image:caption>If you would like support in peeling back some of the layers of your conditioning and habits to reveal your truth, the truth of who and what you already are then let’s chat. A coaching conversation is an effective way to create clarity and discover the next step on your journey. I am offering three free coaching sessions to give you a taste of the power and impact coaching can have on your life. Contact me at melanie@therestorativecoach.com and we can find a time to meet.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2022-05-26</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Blog - Where the Magic Happens - Horizontal Thinking</image:title>
      <image:caption>The thing about our mind is that it has a tendency to focus on the stuff that hasn't happened yet, or things that have already gone by. "Horizontal thinking" is where our thoughts become either past-focused (rumination, regret, and wishing things had been different) or future-focused (worry, anxiety, fear-based thoughts). Future and past-based thinking takes our attention away from the here and now and that is really where the magic happens.  The more distracted we are by this horizontal thinking, the more we tend to focus on problems, on things that have gone wrong or things that might go wrong. Problems are like an itch, the more we scratch away at them, the more we notice another itch, and then another, and another.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2022-05-26</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Blog - Where are you Transferring Your Personal Power? - I used to have a lot of tantrums when I was a kid.</image:title>
      <image:caption>There is many a photo of me red-faced and puffy-eyed, like this one taken when I was 7 years old. I was upset yet again that something hadn’t gone my way. Judging by the bat at my side, I probably lost at Swing Ball or felt like my brother wasn’t being fair. Even as a 7-year-old I remember there being a pause. A moment before I took the well-trodden path of reacting with upset, anger, and frustration. I was too young back then to pull myself out of my default reaction of having a tantrum, but I still noticed the pause and it’s in that pause we have a choice to create our response. Do I want to have a tantrum again and alienate everyone around me, or do I want to keep playing the game and try and win, do I want to tease my brother back, or do I want to go and do something more fun instead?</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2022-03-17</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2022-02-25</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>Blog - How Busyness Obstructs Our Potential - “Everyone in this world shares the same innate source of wisdom, but it is hidden by the tangle of our own misguided personal thoughts.”</image:title>
      <image:caption>Syd Banks - The Missing Link</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2022-02-11</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Do you get stuck in analysis paralysis? Do you find the pressure of work takes the fun out of what you do? Would you like to be comfortable dealing with ambiguity? Do your worries about what other people think, limit your creativity and contributions? Join me for a five-week program and gain a deeper understanding of the human experience, so you can become less affected by your internal narrator and stay in the creative, engaged, high-performance zone for longer. Understand where stress comes from and how it impacts your performance. Learn about your internal narrator - your friend and your foe. Where personal power comes from - making different choices The power of a quiet mind - connecting to your internal guidance system Understand where great performance comes from and how to get good at anything. Find freedom from your insecure thinking, relief from stress, and ground yourself in the reality of who you really are - infinite potential, wisdom, and wellbeing. Starts March 11, and will run on Fridays at 12 pm EST, 5 pm GMT, 9 am PDT. Register Here</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>The quality of our life experience is a reflection of the quality of our thoughts. Stressed, anxious, frustrated? Do you tend to blame others? Do you feel stuck? Do you want things to be better but no matter how hard you try, you keep falling into the same patterns? Are you hard on yourself? Chances are you are stewing in a bath of stale thinking. Change comes from fresh thought, or to put it another way, transformation happens when we see something new, it comes through insight. A coaching conversation creates the fertile soil from which new ideas and new perspectives can grow. How? Insight comes from a quiet, reflective mind. It comes from letting go of what you know, and showing up with an openness to see something new. Coaching works best when both the coach and the client are in a reflective state of mind when they explore the ‘problem’ and find others ways to see it. More often than not the problem dissolves because of a shift in thinking. To coach is to listen, to care, to encourage, and to challenge. It’s about normalizing and validating your experience and helping you see there are other ways of being. Most of all it’s about reminding you of who you really are, a source of infinite potential and the only thing that ever gets in our way is our thinking. If you have a desire for change and are open to seeing something new, contact me for a discovery call and see how your life can be transformed. melanie@therestorativecoach.com</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Do you know someone who is living life a little out of balance? Is their work taking a toll on their personal life? Do they struggle to switch off, to sleep at night? Do they lose sight of their own value and worry they are not doing enough or being impactful enough despite the hours they are putting in? We live in a culture of always being on the go. We measure our worth by our work and when work gets to be too overbearing, it can leave us feeling unfulfilled and drained. I am offering free discovery calls for anyone who might benefit from some support. Before you give up on the job, let’s see if there are some other ways of striking a better balance. Schedule a free session here</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>The Restorative Collective’s mission is to create a confidential space for women to explore what they want out of life and have support in being reminded how strong, powerful, and capable they already are. It’s a place to restore, recharge and rejuvenate. Together we combine our experiences and energy to support each other in finding and taking our next step. It will be a mix of group coaching, as well as a mastermind where we share ideas, and support each other’s progress. It is powerful when we share our experiences with others because it shows us we are not on our own. The collective will be free to the first 3 women who sign up and will take place the first and third Wednesday of every month at 8 am EST. Sessions will start in the new year and once the first three spots are taken. The regular charge will be $45 a month.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>I offer one on one coaching programs, tailored to meet your specific needs. What is on offer to my clients is an opportunity to find comfort, stability, and security within yourself. To connect to a deeper grounding of who you are, one that is unshakable by work, and life. Through our time together you will learn the value of slowing down, of being grounded in who you really are. This is a powerful place to show up in the world, to lead yourself and others. When you are connected to your wiser self, you know that success doesn’t come from a lot of stress and pressure. You begin to appreciate how the opposite is true. Success comes from making deep connections with those around you, from being in the moment, and learning how to listen to your wiser, common sense self, rather than your frantic, intellectual mind. I offer 3 and 6-month coaching programs. I don’t charge crazy prices, so if you are ready to make an investment in yourself, one that you will see a return on for the rest of your life, then get in touch for a chat and we can explore if we are a fit.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>A coaching conversation is a powerful and effective way of disrupting our thought patterns and creating an opportunity for new insight to come in. Albert Einstein said, “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” If you want to enhance your experience of life, if you are ready to change your outlook and take steps toward living a more peaceful and contented life, but you are not sure if coaching is right for you, contact me for a complimentary session and experience what it’s like to have someone listen to you deeply, with no judgment. Someone who will help you see yourself and your situation in a new light. With new insight, comes new thinking, and with new thinking, comes change.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>The Energy Leadership Index Assessment helps you see what your psychological layer looks like and how it’s impacting your satisfaction with life. It measures your beliefs and perceptions and how they influence how you show up on a good day and how you respond to stress. It highlights your strengths, your natural talents as well as the perceptions that are creating stress and limiting your potential. It puts a mirror up to the patterns of thought that are creating your experience. Once you make the unconscious, conscious, you can start to make different choices. I am offering the Attitudinal Assessment for $195 right now. It includes the assessment, a 90 minute personalized debrief, and a report for you to keep, that highlights your opportunities for realizing more of your potential. Contact me to learn more, melanie@therestorativecoach.com</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>How often have you been in conversation with someone who really listens to you? Where the listener doesn't tell you what to do. They don't judge you in any way and they don’t turn the conversation onto themselves? That's the power of a coaching conversation. Someone who listens, but really listens at a deeper level to help you gain a new understanding of yourself and your situation. It is with that new understanding you can see your way forward. If you are curious and want to experience a powerful coaching conversation without any expectations, then feel free to contact me at melanie@therestorativecoach.com to schedule a complimentary session.</image:caption>
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